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I developed this in-depth video course about my Four Tendencies framework to help you understand yourself and others. Because you just took the quiz, I'm offering a discount for a limited time.

There’s no magic, one-size-fits-all answer for building a happier, healthier, more productive life.

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What people are saying about the Four Tendencies

Bekah Taylor

"The Four Tendencies framework has given me a great understanding of myself and allowed me to have a lot of grace in realizing that I need accountability. I kept telling myself that I should be able to do it on my own because my husband could do it. Thank you! Thank you for the research that has allowed me to recognize something in myself that I needed to see. I feel like I will have the ability to be better and do more because of your words!"

Bekah Taylor
Bekah Taylor

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Melissa Urban

New York Times best-selling author, Whole30 CEO
Kim Scott

Kim Scott

Author, Co-founder and CEO of Radical Candor, Inc.
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Tiffany Dufu

Author, Chief Leadership Officer, Levo
Dan Harris

Dan Harris

ABC News anchor, Author and Podcaster, 10% Happier

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When you enroll in the course, you'll immediately get access to 3 introductory videos so you can get started right away.

When you’ve completed this course you'll have specific strategies you can implement based on your Tendency, not just what works for me, or someone else you know.


What you get:
Five weeks of instruction
Twelve video lessons
Reflection questions and exercises
Exclusive live "Ask Gretchen Anything" calls
A community where you can connect with other people who are learning this material and want to understand themselves
Ten bonus video interviews

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The Four Tendencies

There’s no magic, one-size-fits-all answer for building a happier, healthier, more productive life. The New York Times bestseller, The Four Tendencies, has helped thousands of people harness their knowledge of their Tendency to reduce conflict in relationships, change their habits, and become happier as they understand themselves and others better.

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The Four Tendencies Course

Understanding the way you respond to expectations can be the key that unlocks your ability to create healthy habits and harmonious relationships. I developed an in-depth video course about my Four Tendencies framework to help you harness self-knowledge so you can take steps to create the life you want — in the way that’s right for you.

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Gretchen Rubin is happier, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project. and Better Than Before, gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen’s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully.

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The Better App

The Better app will help you make your life happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative: learn about yourself and others, harness the power of the Four Tendencies, master your habits, begin your own happiness project. Get access to exclusive conversations, helpful resources, and private Accountability Groups.

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